“It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single” – Book by Sara Eckel


“You’re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you’ll be fine.”

“You’re too desperate. If men think you need them, they’ll run scared.”

“You’re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.”

“You have low self-esteem. You can’t love someone else until you’ve learned to love yourself.”

“You’re too needy. You can’t be happy in a relationship until you’ve learned to be happy on your own.”


We all know the standard reasons that society tells women about why they’re single and tries to shame them. In It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single Sara Eckel challenges these assumptions, myths, criticisms and stereotypes with research, and shares stories of women living long term single lives.