I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.
– Steve Maraboli
What Brings You Here
Couples often come to counseling when they are having difficulty resolving conflicts related to communication, finances or sexual intimacy. You may be experiencing distance, frustration or hopelessness in your relationship, or feel that your partnership lacks the passion or romance it once had.
To resolve or interrupt conflicts and disagreements, which are part of every intimate relationship, we will look at the ways that you communicate with each other and practice skills to make sure that your concerns, feelings and needs are heard. My work with you as a couple will focus on teaching relationship skills that allow each person to speak and listen from the heart. I’ll help you and your partner say what needs to be said, that sometimes comes out in a more defended way, so you can recognize reactive behavior and understand what your partner is actually feeling. Things aren’t always what they appear to be. Your partner may communicate in a way that hides something tender inside.
Working with You
We will focus on creating a foundation by increasing respect and affection and developing your friendship to help you to be a team when faced with challenges and problems. I’ll guide you toward building openness and intimacy in your relationship so that you can move toward positive changes that will strengthen you as individuals and as partners. Finding a shared sense of meaning about what is important to you in your connection is an integral part of a close and fulfilling relationship and a part of the larger picture of our work together. Cultivating a partnership based on mutuality, love and respect creates a relationship in which you can fell being fully known and understood.
PLEASE NOTE – I provide couples counseling to couples of all sexual orientations, cultural and ethnic backgrounds.
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I greatly appreciated her patience and understanding…
“I’ve worked with Jane over the past several years, and I’m thankful to have chosen her. Her support has helped me to improve my personal and professional relationships, deal with several difficult life changes, and better manage anxiety. I’ve greatly appreciated her patience and understanding, and I am now able to be more present, calm, and grounded thanks to our sessions. I highly recommend her!”
– DW, San Francisco
Resources for Couples – to inform, support and inspire you
Where Should We Begin? – Esther Perel’s PODCAST
Where Should We Begin? - Esther Perel’s Podcast on relationships Do you want to hear real couples share real-life problems?Are you curious about listening to a couples therapy session?Would you like to see an expert therapist help couples get unstuck from old...
The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work – Book by J. Gottman
"The 7 Principles that Make Marriage Work" by John Gottman Do you want to know what to do to make your marriage or relationship better and closer?Are you aware that certain behaviors that partners do mean the relationship will likely end?Are you tired of fighting and...
The Five Love Languages – Book by Gary Chapman
"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman Do you understand your partner's needs for closeness and intimacy?Do you know what you want and like to feel loved?Do you want a better connection? The Five Love Languages will help you learn the ways you prefer to give and...